Not at all; they all went with a "I'm still your friend btw". Some did said they're a bit unconfortable and to not bring it up too much near them and that's understandable and we're still great friends despite it.
I think that depends on the type of servers you are. Are you in friendgroup servers or school servers and things like that? Yeah, you'd be public about who you are. In open-to-anyone servers you'd stay anonymous.
you all will have huge problems finding a partner if you are planning to open up
We're aware. But honestly, I'm okay with that. I would rather find the right person than live forever with the wrong one. If my girlfriend doesn't like me for who I am, ultimately I won't be happy in that relationship. We're hoping that if we go down that path she won't know about Gray until later, but who knows. We're young, we have time to figure this out
I know some tulpamancers from local community irl too btw.
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you all will have huge problems finding a partner if you are planning to open up
We're aware. But honestly, I'm okay with that. I would rather find the right person than live forever with the wrong one. If my girlfriend doesn't like me for who I am, ultimately I won't be happy in that relationship. We're hoping that if we go down that path she won't know about Gray until later, but who knows. We're young, we have time to figure this out
Yeah, some people from my country I met in national community.
12:28 AM
I don't like the idea of compromising on who I am just to fit in to the group. I can always find another group or remain lonely.
12:29 AM
you still probably compromise on which parts of you you show to other people
12:30 AM
Yeah. You don't have to show everyone everything about myself. Why is a stranger supposed to know about my inner world?
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12:30 AM
my point from the start
12:31 AM
But the SO from your example before isn't a stranger.
12:32 AM
I have no intention of having friends who don't accept parts of me I consider significant. Neither a partner who doesn't.
12:33 AM
And while it's not something I'm even going to tell all of my friends, I think that I'd expect a potential partner to know about this part of me and accept it.
12:34 AM
I am a mother of two children and i want them to know me as much as they can, but there is no point i am ever going to tell me about what is going on in those aspects
Question. How is it like, the relationship of you all and these children? Are all of you attached like you guys are all father/mothers or something different?
do you think children knowing about tulpamancy and having "multiple parents" in one body would help them?
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Question. How is it like, the relationship of you all and these children? Are all of you attached like you guys are all father/mothers or something different?
the more important question is what everyone here thinking about "being open and red flags" think about opening up to their 5 year old children about it(edited)
I don't think we'd still be around by that point; we are median so by that point we hope to be together in 1 identity, with maybe once or twice comming out
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I'd probably tell them about my imaginary friends, not introduce them to community.
Saying stuff like "It's OK to have imaginary friends I do too" and stuff like that I can definitely see happening; a full-on explanation only when they're ready at like 15 or 18 or smthing' but a "kid-fied" version of it is definitely something I'd say or mention
anyway, you can see me talking more from the perspective of "the social mask", but i would call it "the big picture" maybe. i don't call them "the body's children" or "the host's children". that state is not a headmate, not a median, just a state that i think everyone should have shared between their
12:40 AM
I agree with you on that , ultimately we are a one human being regardless of tulpamancy and other stuff.
12:41 AM
and that's healthy
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I agree with you on that , ultimately we are a one human being regardless of tulpamancy and other stuff.
I promise I will always be Ranger, no matter what. Switched-in, in the back, guide writer, the guy eating too much cake, a little curious about writing code, all of that is still me, even when I'm doing things that are similar to my other headmates
I would have to integrate or dissipate to be gone forever (edited)
I should clarify that I will always be me, but my interests aren't fixed. I could develop into a different person over time, but I'm not going to be a completely different person tomorrow
1:17 AM
I like tulpamancy and guide writing now, but I'm not going to change my mind anytime soon unless someone could convincingly prove tulpamancy is the root of all evil or something.
On the SO example- if my SO doesn't like who I am, I'm going to have a difficult time being in a relationship with them and I would want out
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there is no way i would support a parent telling about tulpamancy to a child that hasn't developed their own solid identity yet
I personally don't like the idea of telling a child about tulpamancy either, I would rather wait until they're an adult and they express wanting to know. I don't mind if my ideal future child has an imaginary friend and forgets about them in a few months or even a few years, if they want to revive them as a tulpa that's a choice they can make as an adult. If they find out about tulpamancy as a teenager, I would most likely mentor them myself. I don't want them to pick up a harmful mindset or fall apart.
It's not something I'd intentionally push them towards. I'd be mostly just "one of those crazy things your parents used to do like playing the guitar or being the top dog at the arcade but don't anymore" kind of thing.
One of my fears about normalizing tulpamancy is my child getting bullied or teased about it. If things go as I expect, being the child of two moms would be hard enough
I have no idea how old you are or how far your relationship is but in my case I don't think a gay couple would be that outlandish in the future I don't think'
Fair, so same age range then'. I think in 20 years, at least where I live it wouldn't be a big thing for that to be the case. Well, it isn't where I am right now either so yah'
These are desires I have, but things could change. I was excited about being a dad until I realized I'm not trans. Right now I'm just gender confused, but the body will probably stay female moving forward
We're in a similar spot but not confused'. We sometimes are female when we're Lia Anna or Luana but we as a whole are male. I enjoy being the brash and outgoing that I am but sometimes it's nice to spend some time as Lia ya' know? That doesn't apply to how your system works afaik but don't be afraid to feel feminine or mascule for a while; it's OK and even refreshing sometimes
In short, I'm considering being gender fluid myself, Gray is gender-fluid (I guess), and my other headmates are male. The body is female.
1:37 AM
Gray has been more fluid in the past, lately he's embraced his male form. For all I know anything could change and suddenly she'll be female or "both genders". I think that's kind of complicated, I'm cool with being nonbinary
That's fair haha. I guess we are a bit fluid too, considering our whole "we're different facets of one person" thing, but I don't think I'd say we are gender fluid as a whole.
By the way, if you don't mind us asking, what's really the dynamic between you guys? I've heard bits and pieces here and there but don't really know much
I came to the forums in 2018 asking for help about evil tulpas, I was scared about hurting Ranger, Ranger was afraid of our wonderland and I thought you could only talk to tulpas in lucid dreams. Oh, and I accidentally muted Ranger week 1 and she scared the hell out of me proving she's sentient.
That's how we started tulpamancy. That's not including my headmates, us trying to learn how to switch, our system shrinking, etc
Ohh, I see. I thought you meant like, "background"; I've seen a few systems that like, wrote out detailed backstories for each tulpa with at the end "of course none of that happened and she's just in my head and she knows it but we still like to pretend this all happened" and that always weirded us out
Some of my headmates do have lore lore, but honestly it's hard to tell what's lore and what's forcing with my headmates. I remember recording Tom and another headmate deviating back in 2016
1:49 AM
All of my headmates have complicated stories too, and enough history they probably have personal advice they could give.
None of us are, well, like that. We just, kinda exist'. The only ones who are anything more "special" is Nick or Anna; Anna was more-or-less accidental and Nick was Faz being kinda upset at his negative traits so he split 'em up to talk with them and try sorting it out.
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